Patience (trusting in God's timing and will)

            Ah yes, the lesson that seemingly keeps coming back in an attempt to help me learn more. In my life I have gone through some seriously trying times in regards to needing to be patient. Unfortunately for me, I seem to never heed to the lesson being taught, my ability to be patient is about that of my two year old. The irony of this is that I yearn so deeply to be like my Savior, but am the opposite of His example. There have been too many times where I have not had enough faith to trust the timing and will of God. 

            I want to learn to be patient just like Him. I want to be able to be able to face trials and tests and come out not feeling totally worn down because impatience drains you of energy. I want to be patient when it comes to others I love, know, and don’t know. I want to be patient in waiting for the answers to come, however long they may hide from me. I want to be patient enough to know that I will one day be in a better place. I want to be able to have the freedom that patience gives as well as the chain reaction that comes from such a Godly attribute. Things such as love and kindness, serenity, and strength. I want to have the eternal perspective that it can help to provide. I want to most of all, be patient with myself.

            If it wasn't for this divine attribute then the Atonement of Jesus Christ would have never had happened. Think of how many times he exercised patience that only a God could. From times when Scribes and Pharisees would attempt to trip Him up, to Satan tempting him in the desert at 40 days of fasting. To being mocked, scourged, and crucified on a piece of wood that was once a beautiful tree made by Him by those who He was here to save.

Wisdom from the Prophets and Apostles:

Patience is a godly attribute that can heal souls, unlock treasures of knowledge and understanding, and transform ordinary men and women into saints and angels. Patience is truly a fruit of the Spirit. Patience means staying with something until the end. It means delaying immediate gratification for future blessings. It means reining in anger and holding back the unkind word. It means resisting evil, even when it appears to be making others rich. Patience means accepting that which cannot be changed and facing it with courage, grace, and faith. It means being “willing to submit to all things which the Lord seeth fit to inflict upon [us], even as a child doth submit to his father.”8 Ultimately, patience means being “firm and steadfast, and immovable in keeping the commandments of the Lord”9 every hour of every day, even when it is hard to do so. In the words of John the Revelator, “Here is the patience of the saints: here are they that keep the commandments of God, and … faith [in] Jesus.”10 Patience is a process of perfection. The Savior Himself said that in your patience you possess your souls.11 Or, to use another translation of the Greek text, in your patience you win mastery of your souls.12 Patience means to abide in faith, knowing that sometimes it is in the waiting rather than in the receiving that we grow the most. This was true in the time of the Savior. It is true in our time as well, for we are commanded in these latter days to “continue in patience until ye are perfected.”13
Continue in Patience, Dieter F. Uchtdorf, General Conference, 4/2010

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Brigham Young taught that when something came up which he could not comprehend fully, he would pray to the Lord, “Give me patience to wait until I can understand it for myself.”5 And then Brigham would continue to pray until he could comprehend it. We must learn that in the Lord’s plan, our understanding comes “line upon line, precept upon precept.”6 In short, knowledge and understanding come at the price of patience. Often the deep valleys of our present will be understood only by looking back on them from the mountains of our future experience. Often we can’t see the Lord’s hand in our lives until long after trials have passed. Often the most difficult times of our lives are essential building blocks that form the foundation of our character and pave the way to future opportunity, understanding, and happiness.
Continue in Patience, Dieter F. Uchtdorf, General Conference, 4/2010

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As the Lord is patient with us, let us be patient with those we serve. Understand that they, like us, are imperfect. They, like us, make mistakes. They, like us, want others to give them the benefit of the doubt. Never give up on anyone. And that includes not giving up on yourself.
Continue in Patience, Dieter F. Uchtdorf, General Conference, 4/2010

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From that experience, I learned that patience was far more than simply waiting for something to happen—patience required actively working toward worthwhile goals and not getting discouraged when results didn’t appear instantly or without effort. There is an important concept here: patience is not passive resignation, nor is it failing to act because of our fears. Patience means active waiting and enduring. It means staying with something and doing all that we can—working, hoping, and exercising faith; bearing hardship with fortitude, even when the desires of our hearts are delayed. Patience is not simply enduring; it is enduring well! Impatience, on the other hand, is a symptom of selfishness. It is a trait of the self-absorbed. It arises from the all-too-prevalent condition called “center of the universe” syndrome, which leads people to believe that the world revolves around them and that all others are just supporting cast in the grand theater of mortality in which only they have the starring role.
Continue in Patience, Dieter F. Uchtdorf, General Conference, 4/2010

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Patience—the ability to put our desires on hold for a time—is a precious and rare virtue. We want what we want, and we want it now. Therefore, the very idea of patience may seem unpleasant and, at times, bitter. Nevertheless, without patience, we cannot please God; we cannot become perfect. Indeed, patience is a purifying process that refines understanding, deepens happiness, focuses action, and offers hope for peace. As parents, we know how unwise it would be to indulge our children’s every desire. But children are not the only ones who spoil when showered with immediate gratification. Our Heavenly Father knows what good parents come to understand over time: if children are ever going to mature and reach their potential, they must learn to wait.
Continue in Patience, Dieter F. Uchtdorf, General Conference, 4/2010

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God, our Father, and Jesus Christ, our Lord, have marked the way to perfection. They beckon us to follow eternal verities and to become perfect, as They are perfect.8 The Apostle Paul likened life to a race. To the Hebrews he urged, “Let us lay aside … the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us.”9 In our zeal, let us not overlook the sage counsel from Ecclesiastes: “The race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong.”10 Actually, the prize belongs to him or her who endures to the end.
The Race of Life, By President Thomas S. Monson, General Conference, 4/2012

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We know that despite our best intentions, things do not always go according to plan. We make mistakes in life and in our priesthood service. Occasionally we stumble and fall short. When the Lord advises us to “continue in patience until [we] are perfected,”6 He is acknowledging that it takes time and perseverance. Understanding the why of the gospel and the why of the priesthood will help us to see the divine purpose of all of this. It will give us motivation and strength to do the right things, even when they are hard. Staying focused on the basic principles of gospel living will bless us with clarity, wisdom, and direction.
The Why of Priesthood Service, By President Dieter F. Uchtdorf, General Conference, 4/2012

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I cannot promise an end to your adversity in this life. I cannot assure you that your trials will seem to you to be only for a moment. One of the characteristics of trials in life is that they seem to make clocks slow down and then appear almost to stop. There are reasons for that. Knowing those reasons may not give much comfort, but it can give you a feeling of patience. Those reasons come from this one fact: in Their perfect love for you, Heavenly Father and the Savior want you fitted to be with Them to live in families forever. Only those washed perfectly clean through the Atonement of Jesus Christ can be there.
Mountains to Climb, By President Henry B. Eyring, General Conference, 4/2012

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For many of us, conversion is an ongoing process and not a onetime event that results from a powerful or dramatic experience. Line upon line and precept upon precept, gradually and almost imperceptibly, our motives, our thoughts, our words, and our deeds become aligned with the will of God. Conversion unto the Lord requires both persistence and patience.
Converted unto the Lord, By Elder David A. Bednar, General Conference, 10/2012

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Christian patience. In His own sorrow and suffering, the Savior waited upon His Father. With patience for us, He waits upon us to come to ourselves and come home to Him.
Being a More Christian Christian, By Elder Robert D. Hales, General Conference, 10/2012

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I offer some final thoughts for those who love a family member who is not making good choices. That can challenge our patience and endurance. We need to trust in the Lord and in His timing that a positive response to our prayers and rescue efforts can occur. We do all that we can to serve, to bless, and to submissively acknowledge God’s will in all things. We exercise faith and remember that there are some things that must be left to the Lord. He invites us to set our burdens down at His feet. With faith we can know that this straying loved one is not abandoned but is in the watchcare of a loving Savior. Recognize the good in others, not their stains. At times a stain needs appropriate attention to be cleansed, but always build on his or her virtues.
For Peace at Home, By Elder Richard G. Scott, General Conference, 4/2013

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As we ponder the events that can befall all of us, we can say with Job of old, “Man is born unto trouble.”2 Job was a “perfect and upright” man who “feared God, and eschewed evil.”3 Pious in his conduct, prosperous in his fortune, Job was to face a test which could have destroyed anyone. Shorn of his possessions, scorned by his friends, afflicted by his suffering, shattered by the loss of his family, he was urged to “curse God, and die.”4 He resisted this temptation and declared from the depths of his noble soul: “Behold, my witness is in heaven, and my record is on high.”5 “I know that my redeemer liveth.”6 Job kept the faith. Will we do likewise as we face those challenges which will be ours? Whenever we are inclined to feel burdened down with the blows of life, let us remember that others have passed the same way, have endured, and then have overcome.
“I Will Not Fail Thee, nor Forsake Thee”, By President Thomas S. Monson, General Conference, 10/2013

When the pathway of life takes a cruel turn, there is the temptation to ask the question “Why me?” At times there appears to be no light at the end of the tunnel, no sunrise to end the night’s darkness. We feel encompassed by the disappointment of shattered dreams and the despair of vanished hopes. We join in uttering the biblical plea, “Is there no balm in Gilead?”1 We feel abandoned, heartbroken, alone. We are inclined to view our own personal misfortunes through the distorted prism of pessimism. We become impatient for a solution to our problems, forgetting that frequently the heavenly virtue of patience is required. The difficulties which come to us present us with the real test of our ability to endure. A fundamental question remains to be answered by each of us: Shall I falter, or shall I finish? Some do falter as they find themselves unable to rise above their challenges. To finish involves enduring to the very end of life itself.
“I Will Not Fail Thee, nor Forsake Thee”, By President Thomas S. Monson, General Conference, 10/2013

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Some struggle with unanswered questions about things that have been done or said in the past. We openly acknowledge that in nearly 200 years of Church history—along with an uninterrupted line of inspired, honorable, and divine events—there have been some things said and done that could cause people to question. Sometimes questions arise because we simply don’t have all the information and we just need a bit more patience. When the entire truth is eventually known, things that didn’t make sense to us before will be resolved to our satisfaction. Sometimes there is a difference of opinion as to what the “facts” really mean. A question that creates doubt in some can, after careful investigation, build faith in others.
Come, Join with Us, By President Dieter F. Uchtdorf, General Conference, 10/2013

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Sometimes we may ask God for success, and He gives us physical and mental stamina. We might plead for prosperity, and we receive enlarged perspective and increased patience, or we petition for growth and are blessed with the gift of grace. He may bestow upon us conviction and confidence as we strive to achieve worthy goals. And when we plead for relief from physical, mental, and spiritual difficulties, He may increase our resolve and resilience. I promise that as you and I observe and keep the law of tithing, indeed the windows of heaven will be opened and spiritual and temporal blessings will be poured out such that there shall not be room enough to receive them (see Malachi 3:10). We also will remember the Lord’s declaration: “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord. “For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts” (Isaiah 55:8–9). I testify that as we are spiritually attentive and observant, we will be blessed with eyes that see more clearly, ears that hear more consistently, and hearts that understand more fully the significance and subtlety of His ways, His thoughts, and His blessings in our lives.
The Windows of Heaven, By Elder David A. Bednar, General Conference, 10/2013

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“And now it came to pass that the burdens which were laid upon Alma and his brethren were made light; yea, the Lord did strengthen them that they could bear up their burdens with ease, and they did submit cheerfully and with patience to all the will of the Lord” (Mosiah 24:15; emphasis added). The challenges and difficulties were not immediately removed from the people. But Alma and his followers were strengthened, and their increased capacity made the burdens lighter. These good people were empowered through the Atonement to act as agents (see D&C 58:26–29) and impact their circumstances. And “in the strength of the Lord” (Words of Mormon 1:14; Mosiah 9:17; 10:10; Alma 20:4), Alma and his people were directed to safety in the land of Zarahemla.
Bear Up Their Burdens with Ease, By Elder David A. Bednar, General Conference, 4/2014

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If you have a question about counsel from the leaders of the Church, please discuss your honest concerns with your parents and leaders. You need the strength that comes from trusting the Lord’s prophets. President Harold B. Lee said: “The only safety we have as members of this church is to … learn to give heed to the words and commandments that the Lord shall give through His prophet. … There will be some things that take patience and faith. You may not like what comes. … It may contradict your political views … your social views … interfere with … your social life. But if you listen to these things, as if from the mouth of the Lord Himself, … ‘the gates of hell shall not prevail against you … and the Lord God will disperse the powers of darkness from before you …’ (D&C 21:6).”16
Spiritual Whirlwinds, By Elder Neil L. Andersen, General Conference, 4/2014

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Is your heart set on the convenient things of this world, or is it focused on the teachings of the diligent Jesus Christ? “For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.”8 Does the Spirit of God dwell in your hearts? Are you “rooted and grounded” in the love of God and of your fellowmen? Do you devote sufficient time and creativity to bringing happiness to your marriage and family? Do you give your energies to the sublime goal of comprehending and living “the breadth, and length, and depth, and height”9 of the restored gospel of Jesus Christ? Brethren, if it is your great desire to cultivate Christlike attributes of “faith, virtue, knowledge, temperance, patience, brotherly kindness, godliness, charity, humility, [and service],”10 Heavenly Father will make you an instrument in His hands unto the salvation of many souls.11
“Lord, Is It I?”, By President Dieter F. Uchtdorf, General Conference, 10/2014

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Highlight - Dark Blue - Jul 20, 2015:
It is not a matter so much of which words to use, but it will take some patience. It is an approach to your Heavenly Father with the intent to be recognized by Him personally. He is the God above all, the Father of all, and yet willing to give undivided attention to one of His children. That may be why the Savior used the words “Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name.”3 It is easier to get the proper feeling of reverence when you are kneeling or bowing your head, but it is possible to feel that you are approaching your Heavenly Father in less formal and even in silent prayer, as you will often need to do in your priesthood service. There will be noise and people around you most of your waking day. God hears your silent prayers, but you may have to learn to shut out the distractions because the moment you need the connection with God may not come in quiet times.
Priesthood and Personal Prayer, By President Henry B. Eyring, General Conference, 4/2015

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Whether your testimony is thriving and healthy or your activity in the Church more closely resembles a Potemkin village, the good news is that you can build on whatever strength you have. Here in the Church of Jesus Christ you can mature spiritually and draw closer to the Savior by applying gospel principles day by day. With patience and persistence, even the smallest act of discipleship or the tiniest ember of belief can become a blazing bonfire of a consecrated life. In fact, that’s how most bonfires begin—as a simple spark.
On Being Genuine, By President Dieter F. Uchtdorf, General Conference, 4/2015

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The parable of the sower ends with the Savior’s description of the seed that “fell into good ground, and brought forth fruit” in various measures (Matthew 13:8). How can we prepare ourselves to be that good ground and to have that good harvest? Jesus explained that “the good ground are they, which in an honest and good heart, having heard the word, keep it, and bring forth fruit with patience” (Luke 8:15). We have the seed of the gospel word. It is up to each of us to set the priorities and to do the things that make our soil good and our harvest plentiful. We must seek to be firmly rooted and converted to the gospel of Jesus Christ (see Colossians 2:6–7). We achieve this conversion by praying, by scripture reading, by serving, and by regularly partaking of the sacrament to always have His Spirit to be with us. We must also seek that mighty change of heart (see Alma 5:12–14) that replaces evil desires and selfish concerns with the love of God and the desire to serve Him and His children.
The Parable of the Sower, By Elder Dallin H. Oaks, General Conference, 4/2015

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“And now it came to pass that the burdens which were laid upon Alma and his brethren were made light; yea, the Lord did strengthen them that they could bear up their burdens with ease, and they did submit cheerfully and with patience to all the will of the Lord.”6 I have seen that miracle time and time again. We lighten the loads of others best by helping the Lord strengthen them. That is why the Lord included in our charge to comfort others the command to be His witnesses at all times and in all places.
The Comforter, By President Henry B. Eyring, General Conference, 4/2015

The disciplined endurance described in this verse is the result of spiritual understanding and vision, persistence, patience, and God’s grace. Exercising faith in and on the holy name of Jesus Christ, meekly submitting to His will and timing in our lives, and humbly acknowledging His hand in all things yield the peaceable things of the kingdom of God that bring joy and eternal life (see D&C 42:61). Even as we encounter difficulties and face the uncertainties of the future, we can cheerfully persevere and live a “peaceable life in all godliness and honesty” (1 Timothy 2:2). 
Therefore They Hushed Their Fears, By Elder David A. Bednar, General Conference, 4/2015

Family

            If you have ever seen anything that stereotypes members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints then you will have probably noticed that we are pretty fond of the family unit. The typical stereotype is the frazzled parents lugging around enough kids to reboot the Brady Bunch franchise in a big bus like van that has nothing to do with the word “mini”. This stereotype is 100%, and well 100% wrong as well. In our church there are a lot of different types of families ranging from just the husband and wife, to single parents raising kids on their own, and everything in-between. For us the family is the center of the Gospel of Jesus Christ and with it comes many blessings, as well as responsibilities. Family is such an important aspect of life both here on earth and in the hereafter that we’ve created a document I would like to share a portion of. This document is called: “The Family, A Proclamation to the World.”

THE FAMILY is ordained of God. Marriage between man and woman is essential to His eternal plan. Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity. Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities. By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners. Disability, death, or other circumstances may necessitate individual adaptation. Extended families should lend support when needed.
https://www.lds.org/topics/family-proclamation?lang=eng

            The bond created here on earth in the family are so important that we believe in the sealing power of an eternal marriage in our Temples so that we may not be bound by the term, “till death do us part”.

            I am so grateful for this truth we have available to us in this life. I have a wonderful wife and two amazing and adorable daughters and I have learned so much from having them in my life. The most important thing I've learned how ever just how deep that bond is and how the windows of heaven open when we become a family. I am not saying having a family is easy, but it is well worth anything you may go through in the process. My parents are not members of our church and with the death of my mother in 2013 we have had the honor of performing her baptism and other work through my wife that acted as a proxy. My mom on the other side now has another chance to embrace the Gospel and what her true potential really is. I will be doing the same for my father once he passes so that one day, they can welcome me back home using the bond that was never meant to be broken. The same thing I plan to do for my wife and children.

Wisdom from the Prophets and Apostles:

Fathers give blessings and perform sacred ordinances for their children. These will become spiritual highlights in their lives. Fathers are personally involved in leading family prayers, daily scripture reading, and weekly family home evenings. Fathers build family traditions by being involved in helping plan vacation trips and outings that will involve all of the family members. Memories of these special times together will never be forgotten by their children. Fathers hold one-on-one visits with their children and teach them gospel principles. Fathers teach sons and daughters the value of work and help them establish worthy goals in their own lives. Fathers set an example of faithful gospel service. Please remember, brethren, your sacred calling as a father in Israel—your most important calling in time and eternity—a calling from which you are never released.
Finding Lasting Peace and Building Eternal Families, By Elder L. Tom Perry, General Conference, 10/2014

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As the world continues to watch us, let us be certain that our example will sustain and support the plan the Lord has designed for His children here in mortality. The greatest teaching of all must be done by righteous example. Our homes must be holy places in order to stand against the pressures of the world. Remember that the greatest of all the blessings of the Lord come through and are given to righteous families.
Finding Lasting Peace and Building Eternal Families, By Elder L. Tom Perry, General Conference, 10/2014

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The most important setting to forgo contention and practice respect for differences is in our homes and family relationships. Differences are inevitable—some minor and some major. As to major differences, suppose a family member is in a cohabitation relationship. That brings two important values into conflict—our love for the family member and our commitment to the commandments. Following the Savior’s example, we can show loving-kindness and still be firm in the truth by forgoing actions that facilitate or seem to condone what we know to be wrong.
Loving Others and Living with Differences, By Elder Dallin H. Oaks, General Conference, 10/2014

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The Sabbath provides a wonderful opportunity to strengthen family ties. After all, God wants each of us, as His children, to return to Him as endowed Saints, sealed in the temple as families, to our ancestors, and to our posterity.15 We make the Sabbath a delight when we teach the gospel to our children. Our responsibility as parents is abundantly clear. The Lord said, “Inasmuch as parents have children in Zion … that teach them not to understand the doctrine of repentance, faith in Christ the Son of the living God, and of baptism and the gift of the Holy Ghost by the laying on of the hands, when eight years old, the sin be upon the heads of the parents.”16
The Sabbath Is a Delight, By Elder Russell M. Nelson, General Conference, 4/2015

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Let’s examine your Aaronic Priesthood duties as described in section 20 of the Doctrine and Covenants. Be sensitive to what you feel as I apply these duties to your service in your family. “Invite all [of your family] to come unto Christ” (verse 59). “Watch over [them] always, and be with and strengthen them” (verse 53). “Preach, teach, expound, exhort, and baptize” members of your family (verse 46). “Exhort them to pray vocally and in secret and attend to all family duties” (verse 47). “See that there is no iniquity in [your family], neither hardness with each other, neither lying, backbiting, nor evil speaking” (verse 54). “See that [your family meets] together often” (verse 55). Assist your father in his duties as patriarch. Support your mother with priesthood strength when a father is not present (see verses 52, 56). When asked, “ordain other priests, teachers, and deacons” in your family (verse 48). Doesn’t this sound like the work and role of a father ?
Fatherhood—Our Eternal Destiny, By Larry M. Gibson, General Conference, 4/2015

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Brothers and sisters, if we faithfully have family prayer, scripture study, family home evening, priesthood blessings, and Sabbath day observance, our children will know what time it is at home. They will be prepared for an eternal home in heaven, regardless of what befalls them in a difficult world. It is vitally important that our children know they are loved and safe at home.
The Lord Is My Light, By Elder Quentin L. Cook, General Conference, 4/2015

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The role of the family in God’s plan is “to bring us happiness, to help us learn correct principles in a loving atmosphere, and to prepare us for eternal life.”7 The beautiful traditions of religious observance in the home need to be embedded in the hearts of our children.
The Lord Is My Light, By Elder Quentin L. Cook, General Conference, 4/2015

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...children learn the dance steps without learning to hear and to feel the beautiful music of the gospel, they will over time become uncomfortable with the dance and will either quit dancing or, almost as bad, keep dancing only because of the pressure they feel from others who are dancing around them. The challenge for all of us who seek to teach the gospel is to expand the curriculum beyond just the dance steps. Our children’s happiness depends on their ability to hear and love the beautiful music of the gospel....
The Music of the Gospel, By Elder Wilford W. Andersen, General Conference, 4/2015

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A family built on the marriage of a man and woman supplies the best setting for God’s plan to thrive—the setting for the birth of children, who come in purity and innocence from God, and the environment for the learning and preparation they will need for a successful mortal life and eternal life in the world to come. A critical mass of families built on such marriages is vital for societies to survive and flourish. That is why communities and nations generally have encouraged and protected marriage and the family as privileged institutions. It has never been just about the love and happiness of adults.
Why Marriage, Why Family, By Elder D. Todd Christofferson, General Conference, 4/2015

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The entire theology of our restored gospel centers on families and on the new and everlasting covenant of marriage. In The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, we believe in a premortal life where we all lived as literal spirit children of God our Heavenly Father. We believe that we were, and still are, members of His family. We believe that marriage and family ties can continue beyond the grave—that marriages performed by those who have the proper authority in His temples will continue to be valid in the world to come. Our marriage ceremonies eliminate the words “till death do us part” and instead say, “for time and for all eternity.”
Why Marriage and Family Matter—Everywhere in the World, By Elder L. Tom Perry, General Conference, 4/2015

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What the restored gospel brings to the discussion on marriage and family is so large and so relevant that it cannot be overstated: we make the subject eternal! We take the commitment and the sanctity of marriage to a greater level because of our belief and understanding that families go back to before this earth was and that they can go forward into eternity.
Why Marriage and Family Matter—Everywhere in the World, By Elder L. Tom Perry, General Conference, 4/2015

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...couples are tried by temptation, misunderstandings, financial problems, family crises, and illness, and all the while love grows stronger. Mature love has a bliss not even imagined by newlyweds.
The Plan of Happiness, By President Boyd K. Packer, General Conference, 4/2015

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If any of you are having difficulty in your marriage, I urge you to do all that you can to make whatever repairs are necessary, that you might be as happy as you were when your marriage started out. We who are married in the house of the Lord do so for time and for all eternity, and then we must put forth the necessary effort to make it so. I realize that there are situations where marriages cannot be saved, but I feel strongly that for the most part they can be and should be. Do not let your marriage get to the point where it is in jeopardy.
Priesthood Power, Thomas S. Monson, General Conference, 4/2011

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...In the three years since I was sustained as President of the Church, I believe the saddest and most discouraging responsibility I have each week is the handling of cancellations of sealings. Each one was preceded by a joyous marriage in the house of the Lord, where a loving couple was beginning a new life together and looking forward to spending the rest of eternity with each other. And then months and years go by, and for one reason or another, love dies. It may be the result of financial problems, lack of communication, uncontrolled tempers, interference from in-laws, entanglement in sin. There are any number of reasons. In most cases divorce does not have to be the outcome.
Priesthood Power, Thomas S. Monson, General Conference, 4/2011

The Atonement

                There is no greater moment in my life then when the Atonement of Jesus Christ “clicked” for me. For those of you who may not have ever heard or understand the term Atonement, it is a commonly used by the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints to refer to the suffering and death of the Savior. For us we believe that the crucifixion was just a portion of what Jesus went through during those last few days. I think our bible dictionary would better to explain it then I can. Here is a portion of it:

“The word describes the setting “at one” of those who have been estranged and denotes the reconciliation of man to God. Sin is the cause of the estrangement, and therefore the purpose of atonement is to correct or overcome the consequences of sin…

His [Jesus Christ] divine Sonship, His sinless life, the shedding of His blood in the garden of Gethsemane, His death on the cross and subsequent bodily resurrection from the grave, He made a perfect atonement for all mankind.”

https://www.lds.org/scriptures/bd/atonement

                If any of us have any knowledge of Jesus Christ then we know that He died so that we may be forgiven of our sins. However it goes on to be so much deeper than just forgiveness of our sins. The Atonement as a whole included Christ suffering in the garden of Gethsemane. “Which suffering caused myself, even God, the greatest of all, to tremble because of pain, and to bleed at every pore, and to suffer both body and spirit…”

You might be asking to yourself “what suffering was this”? Well look at your life, it is all that you have suffered, we have suffered. It was the combined weight of all mankind’s suffering, pain, and heartbreak. This very intimate detail of the suffering in the garden shows us that when we suffer, we may never be alone, we can call upon our Savior who has felt firsthand just what we are feeling.

Wisdom from the Prophets and Apostles:

The Atonement of Jesus Christ provides the cleanser necessary to be made pure and clean, the soothing salve to heal spiritual wounds and remove guilt, and the protection that enables us to be faithful in times both good and bad.
Come and See, By Elder David A. Bednar, General Conference, 10/2014

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While you are in the temple, listen to the words of the ordinances, ponder them, pray about them, and seek to understand their meaning. The temple is one of the best places to come to understand the power of the Atonement of Jesus Christ. Seek Him there. Remember...
Make the Exercise of Faith Your First Priority, By Elder Richard G. Scott, General Conference, 10/2014

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The gospel of Jesus Christ opens the path to what we may become. Through the Atonement of Jesus Christ and His grace, our failures to live the celestial law perfectly and consistently in mortality can be erased and we are enabled to develop a Christlike character. Justice demands, however, that none of this happen without our willing agreement and participation. It has ever been so. Our very presence on earth as physical beings is the consequence of a choice each of us made to participate in our Father’s plan.9 Thus, salvation is certainly not the result of divine whim, but neither does it happen by divine will alone.10
Free Forever, to Act for Themselves, By Elder D. Todd Christofferson, General Conference, 10/2014

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If we are not aware of what the Savior’s sacrifice can do for us, we may go through life carrying regrets that we have done something that was not right or offended someone. The guilt that accompanies mistakes can be washed away. If we seek to understand His Atonement, we will come to a deep reverence for the Lord Jesus Christ, His earthly ministry, and His divine mission as our Savior.
The Reason for Our Hope, By President Boyd K. Packer, General Conference, 10/2014

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A powerful expression of that love is what the scriptures often call the grace of God—the divine assistance and endowment of strength by which we grow from the flawed and limited beings we are now into exalted beings of “truth and light, until [we are] glorified in truth and [know] all things.”8...
The Gift of Grace, By President Dieter F. Uchtdorf, General Conference, 4/2015

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We often speak of the Savior’s Atonement—and rightly so! In Jacob’s words, “Why not speak of the atonement of Christ, and attain to a perfect knowledge of him?”4 But as “we talk of Christ, … rejoice in Christ, … preach of Christ, [and] prophesy of Christ”5 at every opportunity, we must never lose our sense of awe and profound gratitude for the eternal sacrifice of the Son of God. The Savior’s Atonement cannot become commonplace in our teaching, in our conversation, or in our hearts. It is sacred and holy, for it was through this “great and last sacrifice” that Jesus the Christ brought “salvation to all those who shall believe on his name.”6
The Gift of Grace, By President Dieter F. Uchtdorf, General Conference, 4/2015

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That first Easter sequence of Atonement and Resurrection constitutes the most consequential moment, the most generous gift, the most excruciating pain, and the most majestic manifestation of pure love ever to be demonstrated in the history of this world. Jesus Christ, the Only Begotten Son of God, suffered, died, and rose from death in order that He could, like lightning in a summer storm, grasp us as we fall, hold us with His might, and through our obedience to His commandments, lift us to eternal life.
Where Justice, Love, and Mercy Meet, By Elder Jeffrey R. Holland, General Conference, 4/2015

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...For those who feel they are alone, you can stand resolutely in righteousness knowing that the Atonement will protect and bless you beyond your ability to fully understand.
The Lord Is My Light, By Elder Quentin L. Cook, General Conference, 4/2015

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If the grim realities you are facing at this time seem dark and heavy and almost unbearable, remember that in the soul-wrenching darkness of Gethsemane and the incomprehensible torture and pain of Calvary, the Savior accomplished the Atonement, which resolves the most terrible burdens that can occur in this life. He did it for you, and He did it for me. He did it because He loves us and because He obeys and loves His Father. We will be rescued from death—even from the depths of the sea.
The Lord Is My Light, By Elder Quentin L. Cook, General Conference, 4/2015

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...we testify that the Atonement of Jesus Christ has anticipated and, in the end, will compensate all deprivation and loss for those who turn to Him. No one is predestined to receive less than all that the Father has for His children.
Why Marriage, Why Family, By Elder D. Todd Christofferson, General Conference, 4/2015

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...Son of God, Jesus Christ, suffered and died to atone for Adam and Eve’s transgression, thereby providing resurrection and immortality for all. And since none of us will have been perfectly and consistently obedient to the gospel law, His Atonement also redeems us from our own sins on condition of repentance. With the Savior’s atoning grace providing forgiveness of sins and sanctification of the soul, we can spiritually be born again and reconciled to God. Our spiritual death—our separation from God—will end.15
Why Marriage, Why Family, By Elder D. Todd Christofferson, General Conference, 4/2015

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...of the Atonement makes repentance possible and quells the despair caused by sin; it also strengthens us to see, do, and become good in ways that we could never recognize or accomplish with our limited mortal capacity. Truly, one of the great blessings of devoted discipleship is “the peace of God, which passeth all understanding” (Philippians 4:7).
Therefore They Hushed Their Fears, By Elder David A. Bednar, General Conference, 4/2015

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...which can reclaim each one of us, bears no scars. That means that no matter what we have done or where we have been or how something happened, if we truly repent, He has promised that He would atone. And when He atoned, that settled that. There are so many of us who are thrashing around, as it were, with feelings of guilt, not knowing quite how to escape. You escape by accepting the Atonement of Christ, and all that was heartache can turn to beauty and love and eternity. I am so grateful for the blessings of the Lord Jesus Christ, for the power of procreation, for the power of redemption, for the Atonement—the Atonement which can wash clean every stain no matter how difficult or how long or how many times repeated. The Atonement can put you free again to move forward, cleanly and worthily, to pursue that path that you have chosen in life. I bear witness that God lives, that Jesus is the Christ, that the Atonement is not a general thing that is for the whole Church. The Atonement is individual, and if you have something that is bothering you—sometimes so long ago you can hardly remember it—put the Atonement to work. It will clean it up, and you, as does He, will remember your sins no more. In the name of Jesus Christ, amen.
The Plan of Happiness, By President Boyd K. Packer, General Conference, 4/2015

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...Our spirits are damaged when we make mistakes and commit sins. But unlike the case of our mortal bodies, when the repentance process is complete, no scars remain because of the Atonement of Jesus Christ. The promise is: “Behold, he who has repented of his sins, the same is forgiven, and I, the Lord, remember them no more” (D&C 58:42).
The Plan of Happiness, By President Boyd K. Packer, General Conference, 4/2015

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On Easter Sunday we celebrate the most long-awaited and glorious event in the history of the world. It is the day that changed everything. On that day, my life changed. Your life changed. The destiny of all God’s children changed. On that blessed day, the Savior of mankind, who had taken upon Himself the chains of sin and death that held us captive, burst those chains and set us free. Because of the sacrifice of our beloved Redeemer, death has no sting, the grave has no victory,1 Satan has no lasting power, and we are “begotten … again unto a lively hope by the resurrection of Jesus Christ.”2
The Gift of Grace, By President Dieter F. Uchtdorf, General Conference, 4/2015

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The burdens His faithful servants must carry in life are made lighter by His Atonement. The burden of sin can be taken away, but the trials of mortal life for good people can still be heavy burdens.
The Comforter, By President Henry B. Eyring, General Conference, 4/2015

Pornography

There is no amount of money that could ever be used to legitimize it. There is no argument convincing enough that will sway your soul to believe it is good. Regardless, the study the industry itself pays for, pornography and human sexual exploitation is evil. One of the most sacred, most beautiful things in humanity is love and the act therein of. Pornography is not that; it is pure hate. Hate for one’s self, hate for others, hate for the sacred, and hate which the very idea of normality sounds much like the following:

“It is just inevitable that you are going to get girls who cry during shoots. It’s honestly pretty annoying but it just happens. Especially for the girls starting out in the business, you're going to have to help them grow up. Most of my girls were “emotional” at the beginning of their careers, but I taught them that they had to detach themselves from the sex in order to be successful. This isn't the love industry, this is the flesh business. Remind them of that.”

Though pornography seems like a purely physical act, its ramifications very much scar your mind and corrupt your soul. It’s like a weed who roots into your very being in the form of addiction. It does so not only by latching on to those who view it from a screen, but even to those who fell under its guise of lavish living and big paydays.  This addiction can and does lead to some of the most vile acts humans can put one another through, rape and human trafficking.

Regardless if there is consent or a payday involved, nothing justifies pornography. If you're reading this and have a different opinion, try giving your perspective to the one in three women you know that have been raped. Try speaking to the women who will never see their children come home as they have been kidnaped, sold, held against their will all to satisfy your selfish desires until they are so used up, that they are disposed of like a used tissue. Speak next to the victims that have been savagely gang rapped to the point that they no longer have a life. Most ended up bleeding out due to the trauma caused from repeatedly being violated by those who regarded the victims as nothing but flesh to be used.

Most importantly, look into the mirror and try to convince yourself that everything is ok. Even though you were meant for so much more, it’s ok that you have this one millstone hanging by your neck, drowning you, dragging you down further and further away from the truly spiritual being you really are. While you’re looking in that mirror, think of what you're going to tell the very God who not only suffered for your sins, but suffered with those whose suffering was ultimately caused by you. 

You are meant for so much more, those exploited deserve so much better. Let true love for yourself and others win, let go of the hate and the anger.

Further reading:

http://fightthenewdrug.org/emails-between-a-veteran-and-rookie-porn-producer/#sthash.cVgFONIX.dpbs

http://fightthenewdrug.org/10-porn-stars-speak-openly-about-their-most-popular-scenes/#sthash.y9VMGuFP.kE6XoKJN.dpbs

Wisdom from the Prophets and Apostles:

Addictions often begin subtly. Addictions are thin threads of repeated action that weave themselves into thick bonds of habit. Negative habits have the potential to become consuming addictions. These binding chains of addiction can have many forms, like pornography, alcohol, sex, drugs, tobacco, gambling, food, work, the Internet, or virtual reality. Satan, our common enemy, has many favorite tools he uses to rob us of our divine potential to accomplish our mission in the Lord’s kingdom. It saddens our Heavenly Father to see how willingly some of His noble sons extend their wrists to accept the chains of devastating addictions.
Are You Sleeping through the Restoration?, By President Dieter F. Uchtdorf, General Conference, 4/2014

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Let any who may be in the grip of this vise get upon their knees in the privacy of their closet and plead with the Lord for help to free them from this evil monster. Otherwise, this vicious stain will continue through life and even into eternity....
A Tragic Evil among Us, Gordon B. Hinckley, General Conference, 10/2004

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I repeat, we can do better than this. We must do better than this. We are men of the priesthood. This is a most sacred and marvelous gift, worth more than all the dross of the world. But it will be amen to the effectiveness of that priesthood for anyone who engages in the practice of seeking out pornographic material.
A Tragic Evil among Us, Gordon B. Hinckley, General Conference, 10/2004

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The excuse is given that it is hard to avoid, that it is right at our fingertips and there is no escape. Suppose a storm is raging and the winds howl and the snow swirls about you. You find yourself unable to stop it. But you can dress properly and seek shelter, and the storm will have no effect upon you.
A Tragic Evil among Us, Gordon B. Hinckley, General Conference, 10/2004

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...Pornography is not some titillating feast for the eyes that gives a momentary rush of excitement. [Rather] it has the effect of damaging hearts and souls to their very depths, strangling the life out of relationships that should be sacred, hurting to the very core those you should love the most.”
A Tragic Evil among Us, Gordon B. Hinckley, General Conference, 10/2004

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The immediate spiritual consequences of such hypocrisy are devastating. Those who seek out and use pornography forfeit the power of their priesthood. The Lord declares: “When we undertake to cover our sins, … behold, the heavens withdraw themselves; the Spirit of the Lord is grieved; and when it is withdrawn, Amen to the priesthood or the authority of that man” (D&C 121:37). Patrons of pornography also lose the companionship of the Spirit. Pornography produces fantasies that destroy spirituality. “To be carnally minded is death”—spiritual death (Rom. 8:6; see also 2 Ne. 9:39).
Pornography, Dallin H. Oaks, General Conference, 4/2005

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One of the Savior’s most memorable teachings applies to men who are secretly viewing pornography: “Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye make clean the outside of the cup and of the platter, but within they are full of extortion and excess. “Thou blind Pharisee, cleanse first that which is within the cup and platter, that the outside of them may be clean also” (Matt. 23:25–26; see also Alma 60:23).
Pornography, Dallin H. Oaks, General Conference, 4/2005

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...Some involved in pornography apparently minimize its seriousness and continue to exercise the priesthood of God because they think no one will know of their involvement. But the user knows, brethren, and so does the Lord.
Pornography, Dallin H. Oaks, General Conference, 4/2005

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“Pornographic or erotic stories and pictures are worse than filthy or polluted food. The body has defenses to rid itself of unwholesome food. With a few fatal exceptions, bad food will only make you sick but do no permanent harm. In contrast, a person who feasts upon filthy stories or pornographic or erotic pictures and literature records them in this marvelous retrieval system we call a brain. The brain won’t vomit back filth. Once recorded, it will always remain subject to recall, flashing its perverted images across your mind and drawing you away from the wholesome things in life.”
Pornography, Dallin H. Oaks, General Conference, 4/2005

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...letters from persons burdened with this addiction. Some of these letters were from men who had overcome pornography. One man wrote: “There are several lessons I’ve gleaned from my experience coming out of the darkness of a sin that so thoroughly dominates the lives of the people it ensnares: (1) This is a major problem that is unbelievably difficult to overcome. … (2) The most important source of support and strength in the repentance process is the Savior. … (3) Intense, daily scripture study, regular temple worship, and serious, contemplative participation in the ordinance of the sacrament are all indispensable parts of a true repentance process. This, I assume, is because all of these activities serve to deepen and strengthen one’s relationship with the Savior, one’s understanding of His atoning sacrifice, and one’s faith in His healing power” (letter dated Oct. 24, 2005).
He Heals the Heavy Laden, Dallin H. Oaks, General Conference, 10/2006

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Satan has become a master at using the addictive power of pornography to limit individual capacity to be led by the Spirit. The onslaught of pornography in all of its vicious, corroding, destructive forms has caused great grief, suffering, heartache, and destroyed marriages. It is one of the most damning influences on earth. Whether it be through the printed page, movies, television, obscene lyrics, vulgarities on the telephone, or flickering personal computer screen, pornography is overpoweringly addictive and severely damaging. This potent tool of Lucifer degrades the mind and the heart and the soul of any who use it....
To Acquire Spiritual Guidance, Richard G. Scott, General Conference, 10/2009

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Pornography is especially dangerous and addictive. Curious exploration of pornography can become a controlling habit, leading to coarser material and to sexual transgression. Avoid pornography at all costs.
Preparation Brings Blessings, Thomas S. Monson, General Conference, 4/2010

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...once that true love must include the idea of permanence. True love endures. But lust changes as quickly as it can turn a pornographic page or glance at yet another potential object for gratification walking by, male or female. True love we are absolutely giddy about—as I am about Sister Holland; we shout it from the housetops. But lust is characterized by shame and stealth and is almost pathologically clandestine—the later and darker the hour the better, with a double-bolted door just in case. Love makes us instinctively reach out to God and other people. Lust, on the other hand, is anything but godly and celebrates self-indulgence. Love comes with open hands and open heart; lust comes with only an open appetite. These are just some of the reasons that prostituting the true meaning of love—either with imagination or another person—is so destructive. It destroys...
Place No More for the Enemy of My Soul, Jeffrey R. Holland, General Conference, 4/2010

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Priesthood holders carry with them the antidote to remove the terrible images of pornography and to wash away guilt. The priesthood has the power to unlock the influence of our habits, even to unchain from addiction, however tight the grip. It can heal over the scars of past mistakes.
Cleansing the Inner Vessel, Boyd K. Packer, General Conference, 10/2010

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In our day the dreadful influence of pornography is like unto a plague sweeping across the world, infecting one here and one there, relentlessly trying to invade every home, most frequently through the husband and father. The effect of this plague can be, unfortunately often is, spiritually fatal. Lucifer seeks to disrupt “the great plan of redemption,” “the great plan of happiness.” Pornography will always repel the Spirit of Christ and will interrupt the communications between our Heavenly Father and His children and disrupt the tender relationship between husband and wife. The priesthood holds consummate power. It can protect you from the plague of pornography—and it is a plague—if you are succumbing to its influence. If one is obedient, the priesthood can show how to break a habit and even erase an addiction. Holders of the priesthood have that authority and should employ it to combat evil influences.
Cleansing the Inner Vessel, Boyd K. Packer, General Conference, 10/2010

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...But make no mistake: there are also people who are determined to both destroy faith and reject any religious influence in society. Other evil people exploit, manipulate, and tear down society with drugs, pornography, sexual exploitation, human trafficking, robbery, and dishonest business practices. The power and influence of these people is very large even if they are relatively small in number.
Let There Be Light!, Quentin L. Cook, General Conference, 10/2010

An ever-present danger to the family is the onslaught of evil forces that seem to come from every direction. While our primary effort must be to seek light and truth, we would be wise to black out from our homes the lethal bombs that destroy spiritual development and growth. Pornography, in particular, is a weapon of mass moral destruction. Its impact is at the forefront in eroding moral values.
Let There Be Light!, Quentin L. Cook, General Conference, 10/2010

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...Because the Spirit whispers to us gently and delicately, it is easy to understand why we should shun inappropriate media, pornography, and harmful, addictive substances and behaviors. These...
The Spirit of Revelation, David A. Bednar, General Conference, 4/2011

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Stay completely away from pornography. Do not allow yourself to view it, ever. It has proven to be an addiction which is more than difficult to overcome....
Priesthood Power, Thomas S. Monson, General Conference, 4/2011

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Permissiveness, immorality, pornography, drugs, the power of peer pressure—all these and more—cause many to be tossed about on a sea of sin and crushed on the jagged reefs of lost opportunities, forfeited blessings, and shattered dreams.
Believe, Obey, and Endure, By President Thomas S. Monson, General Conference, 4/2012

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For example, consider the plague of pornography sweeping across the world. The Lord’s standard of worthiness gives no allowance for pornography among those officiating in the ordinances of the priesthood. The Savior said: “Repent of your … secret abominations.” “The light of the body is the eye. … If thine eye be evil, thy whole body shall be full of darkness.” “[For] whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.”
Power in the Priesthood, By Elder Neil L. Andersen, General Conference, 10/2013

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First, addictions that impair agency, contradict moral beliefs, and destroy good health cause bondage. The impact of drugs and alcohol, immorality, pornography, gambling, financial subjugation, and other afflictions imposes on those in bondage and on society a burden of such magnitude that it is almost impossible to quantify.
Lamentations of Jeremiah: Beware of Bondage, By Elder Quentin L. Cook, General Conference, 10/2013